1. Economic-disparity is often under-stated, yet is one major factor behind the increasing number of rape cases in Indian metropolitans. People of several classes live packed together in our densely populated cities. Rape is one way of them getting back at each other, women become an easy target of this power struggle.
2. One who rapes once, definitely does rape twice and even more, if not checked. Most women don’t report rape because of associated taboos – and that adds to his confidence. Also, the public trials of rape cases can run for years before punishment and the whole stretched-out process becomes a never-ending nightmare for the victim and her family. The rapist knows that there’s a good chance that he can get away. He gets off on this power, besides the obvious seхual component.
3. Indian society empowers rapists. Yes, it’s ugly; but it’s a fact. Rape is a woman’s burden to bear. Once a woman is raped, she is considered impure. Most families are not interested in bringing a daughter-in-law into their family who was ‘once raped’. Even parents are known to be unsupportive and blame the rape on their own daughters.
4. Men have many seхual fantasies about women. Believe it or not, it’s healthy. But it’s their own personal history that decides if these fantasies are violent and if they’ll materialize in the form of rape. How they see women depends a lot on how respectful were their fathers towards their mothers, or women in general.
5. Police can’t be present everywhere to physically stop rape. Rape is a reality of India and our society will change at it’s own pace. Till then it wouldn’t be unwise to be a little realistic in deciding how much leg, or cleavage to show to a potential predator. Use your own good judgement, even if it dims your style a little bit.
6. Cops too come from the same seхually dysfunctional and repressed Indian families that breed this generation of rapists. It shouldn’t be a surprise when we witness this abomination of a reaction from police when they blame the victim for rape. The insensitive mindset towards women is in the very culture. Though, not much is done to recruit or post cops with their cultural upbringing in mind.
7. Mothers can change a lot of things. While Indian mothers fully understand how to keep their daughters grounded, they need to completely overhaul their strategy in bringing-up boys. If a conservative mother holds the belief that women who wear jeans or skirts, are loose, so will her son. Mother’s should teach their sons that even if a woman is a prostitute, she’s still a person.
8. Today, young men and women in India learn more about seх through pornography, than their schools. Conservative, seхually-repressed families and seх-influxed media has created an unhealthy imbalance. Not just kids, but even adults need seх-education. A sensitization exercise that could teach them to manage their libidos in a healthy way.
9. Seх in media has opened our society to some extent. Where English-speaking India has learnt how seх is healthy and normal, the regional-India is still stuck in the medieval-age. In Hindi-speaking-world, seх is still a ‘dirty’ subject. This liberal-conservative, English-Hindi gap needs to be bridged fast, else innocent women will keep getting victimized, maybe even more, as our society becomes more progressive.
10. Most Indian women’re not assertive. Assertiveness is the inner-confidence that comes from right education, but more importantly, from society’s approval of one’s freedom. India needs to stop loading her daughters with the massive burden of honor. This way we cripple them forever. Rapes happen in open societies too, but there you don’t become an outcast as a result of somebody else’s actions.
Written by Ishaan Mohan Bagga
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